Although it seems that over the past 20 years the world has completely changed, we and our parents – residents of different planets, and millennials are concerned about very different problems, some things have remained the same. For example, the commitment of most people to monogamous relationships.
The fact that young people did not stop believing in love is confirmed by a survey conducted by the Higher School of Economics and the Russian State Social University in 2017. As reported in the study, 82% of young people aged 17 to 30 years cited sincere feelings for each other as the main reason for getting married.
Despite the fact that monogamy remains the main form of relationships, we look at this concept differently than our parents. The time came when society began to doubt that constant communication with one partner is better than all other types of relationships.
According to Terry Conley, head of the University of Michigan Stigma Research Laboratory, monogamy is so ingrained in human culture that many people do not even realize their prejudices about this:
We do not even think about whether monogamy is correct. We just see it as the only way.
This is how social perceptions of monogamous relationships have changed over the past few decades.
Monogamy does not mean “forever”
For what it is worth to pay tribute to the revolution in Russia, so it’s a possibility to legalize divorce. More than two centuries the only valid reason for divorce was adultery. Because of the inability to divorce on another occasion, the couple were stalking each other and tried to denigrate.
It would not stigmatize the subject of divorce in past centuries, people have always cheated, cheated or just got tired from each other. Sorry that it took so much time to understand, divorce is not the end of the world.
Today, the average duration of marriage in Russia is between 10-17 years is not much compared to a whole life. The attitude to divorce in the society is still mixed, but generally to get away from a bad relationship easier. The monogamous relationship now is not a “once and forever”. People have recognized that marriages are made in beauty Salons and not in the higher courts, and there is no sense to death to sit by the desolate hearth, with sad faces.
Monogamy does not mean that marriage is compulsory
In addition to the fact that divorce becomes much more tolerant, many people decide not to register their status. Nevertheless, they choose one partner for life and remain faithful during the relationship. In my opinion, is very honest. When would I be able to genuinely answer “Yes” to the question about joy and sorrow, health and sickness, as after a couple of decades spent together.
Monogamy is not the only option
Not all men are created monogamous. To admit that you are polimernyh or free relationship today is much easier, but in Russia, such statements should be careful.
It is difficult to convince society that the basis of millennial notions of monogamy as the only proper and moral form of relations — a practical calculation, and it is useless. Young people already feel much freer in matters of self-determination.
Monogamy depends on the partner
Monogamy is not an innate quality, but a complex of attitudes that can change over the course of life. A convinced polyamor can meet a person who will replace all past connections with him, and create quite traditional relations with him. It all depends on how you feel and who is next to you at the moment.